How to handle failures ?

monarch6049

The pain of failing esp at upsc - no one can understand that but only the one who is failing. Your parents, friends can do nothing for you but can say some soothing words and that doesn't help frankly speaking
I really want to know from those people who failed , how they came out of that turbulent situation, how they told their parents that ya mom dad m failed again , how those aspirants having no more attempts or their last attempt managed to look at life at the time they invested on upsc n still got nothing

Please don't troll here , genuine experiences will be highly appreciated. U may be helping someone in need

race

The one thing that I've learnt from failures is that talking/discussing doesn't help. Your failure should become a fuel to recharge you. It should become your midnight oil and give you the courage to strive for another day. It should help you come out as gold in a furnace.
Sorry for sounding philosophical.

Ferrero_rocher

Its not that i am lacking motivation to work further after this years' failure, still i am not able to give my best. I keep wasting my day since when result has been anounced. I feel i have become vulnerable. Everything is affecting me a lot. I haven't got a proper sleep since 16th, have lost appetite. This is very unusual for a person like me. I am not even able to handle even a light hearted joke. Even all this what i have written seems like cribbing, which never helps.

I generally don't ponder over my failures , i am good to go very next day. But this time i am not able to pick my self up. I have an opportunity waiting for me in coming months and even UPSC prelims isn't far away now yet i am not able to work. I just feel like crying all the time and worst thing is i am not even able to cry.
I don't even know why am i posting all this overhere. I myself can only change this situation yet i am not able to.

Green_Langur

Take a break

Prepare for a backup

Secure your career

Become tension free and relaxed

Prepare for the next attempt alongside a job

Profit $$$

Bahot khub

Green_Langur

The one thing that I've learnt from failures is that talking/discussing doesn't help. Your failure should become a fuel to recharge you. It should become your midnight oil and give you the courage to strive for another day. It should help you come out as gold in a furnace.
Sorry for sounding philosophical.

Get out of philosophy and get back to real life

Bahot khub

race

The one thing that I've learnt from failures is that talking/discussing doesn't help. Your failure should become a fuel to recharge you. It should become your midnight oil and give you the courage to strive for another day. It should help you come out as gold in a furnace.
Sorry for sounding philosophical.

Get out of philosophy and get back to real life

Bahot khub

Unsolicited opinion.

Bahot khub

ted_cruz

Securing a back up is the only way...not that ppl who are in job are not affected by failure..but the pain and anxiety In vase of unemployed ppl is more..this what if haunts us more..job bhi aasani se nahi milti lekin aajkal..

Laal_Saalaam

Securing a back up is the only way...not that ppl who are in job are not affected by failure..but the pain and anxiety In vase of unemployed ppl is more..this what if haunts us more..job bhi aasani se nahi milti lekin aajkal..

An unemployed has more chance of clearing than employed one.

bhul jao mera 5 failure hai UPSC mein phir bhi agle din se shuru kar di tayari, kya farak padta hai ek hi to jivan hai agar achi tareeke se kat gaya to upar jakar bhagwan ko danayaad kahenga agar nahi kata to bhi koi tension nahi yeh soch lengay ek hi to jeevan katna hai is ke baad konsa phir se dharti par janam milega.

Bohut khub

DrKingSchultz

Talk to your family.
Tell them you are working towards it.
If they understand, well and good; if they don't, become adamant, they'll relent eventually.

Tell your friends that you're working towards your goal IF they ask. When they dissuade you, tell them that you're free to do whatever you want (don't sour relationships, not only because it hampers mental peace but because pata nahi kaun kab kaam aa jaaye. )

If you have a boyfriend/girlfriend who understands you and respects your goals, well and good.
If not, breakup. They're of no use to you at present. And they won't help you in the future either; ego gets in the way.

In the end, it's your life. And a very short period at that - 3, 4 years. Do what you want. If you REALLY want a service, don't delve into failures. Learn from them and put your entire energy into the next attempt.
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Look at Lal bhai; 5 attempts, prelims failure in 5th after getting into reserve list earlier (and rejecting the job). He still managed to put up 10 comments on the 2017 question bank thread within 2 days of it's inception. Hats off to his perseverance!

merc_benz

Securing a back up is the only way...not that ppl who are in job are not affected by failure..but the pain and anxiety In vase of unemployed ppl is more..this what if haunts us more..job bhi aasani se nahi milti lekin aajkal..

+1... it's indispensable to change the mindset. Especially as the age advances.

DG_Saahib

I have decided 3 things if I fail in all my attempts.

1. I won't marry.
2. I may get a tattoo saying 'Loser'.
3. Complete cut-off from friends and relatives.

Go hell with the world. BC.